Signs That Your Partner Is Not Ready For Marriage.
If you’ve long envisioned yourself walking down that aisle and shouting, “I do!” then make sure you and bae are on the same page is crucial.
Sure, in the beginning, dating is lighthearted and fun and you certainly don’t need to run to the alter but knowing that you’re at least headed in that direction together is going to save you a lot of sweat, stress, and tears.
If you’re getting mixed signals and just aren’t sure what to think, be on the lookout for these top signs your partner is just not there yet.

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They won’t plan anything long-term.
If your partner is struggling to make semi-permanent commitments, such as moving in together, planning a future vacation, getting a pet, or making joint purchases, this could be a sign they’re avoiding a more concrete commitment.
If they won’t make any permanent commitments with you, it sends a signal that they aren’t all in.
They hate compromise.
Compromise is a healthy part of all relationships, and refusal to engage in compromise is a sign of disrespect. Although none of us truly love compromise, but for the greater good in a relationship, we realize that it’s important to meet in the middle.
They avoid the topic of marriage altogether.
Let’s say you go to a wedding together, or you’re watching a swoon-worthy rom-com, and you casually mention to your partner that you can’t wait for your own big day. Or maybe you ask them what they envision for their own wedding.
If you’re met with awkward silence or an abrupt subject change, that’s a sign your partner is not comfortable with the topic. It could also mean that they’re not comfortable talking about that topic with you, specifically.

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You don’t really argue much or at all.
Fighting is a totally normal part of any relationship. The key is to argue in a calm way where both parties feel heard and progress is made. Avoiding these kinds of conversations is a recipe for disaster in any relationship.
For example, it can lead to built-up resentment, withdrawal, compounding frustrations, and in some cases might be a precursor to infidelity since neither partner feels connected.
They only proposed because everyone else did it.
Being around couples who have taken the marriage plunge can get your partner to start thinking more realistically about making that commitment, as well.
However, if you get the sense that your partner is only interested in proposing because it’s what everyone else has done in their life versus doing the work it takes to get to that healthy mental place that’s not ideal. This is called “sliding into marriage.”
In this case, they may be worried about losing you, but they may have no real understanding of what it takes to make a marriage work or take the value of marriage.
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