5 Ways To Fix A Toxic Relationship.

5 Ways To Fix A Toxic Relationship

Toxic relationships happen when people are stuck in harmful relational patterns and cycles. In romantic partnerships, physical or sexual attraction can be a powerful force that draws folks to stay in toxic relationships.

Toxic dynamics can be mended with conscious time, effort, and self-awareness. But both people need to be willing to change and accept responsibility to move forward.

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Here’s exactly how to fix a toxic relationship.

• Understand whether the relationship actually can be fixed.

Yes, toxic relationships can change. But that comes with a very big if. A toxic relationship can change if and only if both partners are equally committed to overcoming it with lots of open communication, honesty, self-reflection, and possibly professional help, individually and together. It will require each of you to examine your actions and do inner work. If you or your partner is not willing to truly put in the effort, the relationship will not change and should be ended.

• Take responsibility for your action

Identifying past episodes and behavior that have hurt the relationship is essential on both ends. The self-acceptance clearly reflects involvement from both parties and helps to assist the relationship to rise from the ashes.

• Set boundaries to maintain love and respect

One of the major contributing factors in relationships going bad is too much unnecessary closeness. Closeness to the point where people cross each other’s personal boundaries and become “clingy” and overly possessive about each other, which ultimately leads to the loss of respect in the relationship.

• Be willing to walk away

Before you attempt to confront a toxic partner, make sure your self-esteem and self-confidence are good enough for you to know that you will be all right if they end the relationship with you, or if you end up having to end it with them.

If you want to improve your relationship with a toxic partner, you have to be willing to leave that relationship if nothing changes. If you’re unwilling to do so, your partner will ultimately know that regardless of what they do, you really won’t leave.

Toxic relationships can leave you feeling raw and unsatisfied. And it is best to end such relationships if your partner is willing to work with you, can turn things around.

• Learn to become emotionally independent

Emotional Independence is one of the most important life skills under any circumstances. It simply means that you learn to take charge of your own emotional state.

Emotional Dependence, on the other hand, means that a person’s happiness, confidence, and sense of fulfillment rely on somebody else.

If you are emotionally dependent, you are at the mercy of other people’s moods, behaviors, and external circumstances.

If you blame someone else or the circumstances for your own miserable state, that indicates that you’re being emotionally dependent upon that person and that is a very unstable position to be in.

Many people fall into the blame-game trap because it is easier to put all responsibility on to someone else.

If we blame someone, there is nothing we have to do. All we have to do is to sit and be the victim. That doesn’t take any effort, does it?

But taking charge of our lives takes a lot of courage and a lot of effort. It pushes us out of our bubble of learned helplessness. That is where freedom and empowerment lie.

I know in the beginning it’s a bit hard to digest this concept. That’s okay, take your time and ponder over it.