What All Men Do When They Are Cheating
Cheating is something that has affected many of us – whether it’s advising a friend or relative who has concerns about their relationship or letting a glimmer of doubt cross your own mind when it comes to your own relationship.
Lots of couples have rough patches and our interests in each other come and go, depending on how secure you feel as a couple. So, if you do suspect that your partner could be having an affair, how can you tell? What are the signs he’s cheating?
He’s less intimate with you
This type of distance is not only emotional but physical as well. If you’ve noticed that your once healthy and blooming sexual relationship has become a thing of the past, this behavior can also be indicative of a cheater.
If your once frequent and fulfilling intimate time together now occurs less often and/or your partner seems rushed, distracted, and disinterested, take it to heart that this man may be toying with your heart.
He frequently condemns cheating
In many instances, when a man is being unfaithful, he goes out of his way to condemn and denounce the act of cheating as much as possible. In psychology, this concept is known as reaction formation. It’s when a person becomes overly obsessed with an idea, concept, or belief that’s actually the complete opposite of his or her real thoughts and feelings about the issue.
This reaction formation helps him deal with and manage his own inner conflict, and by being so openly and forcefully opposed to cheating, he’s trying to convince others, as well as himself, that he’s not really a cheater.
He spends time with friends who’ve cheated
A man’s friends can give you clear insight into his character, priorities, interests, and pastimes. And while you can’t control who your man is friends with, it’s interesting to note that a man who cheats typically hangs out with other men who’ve also cheated. In fact, research has shown that nearly 80% of men who cheat have a close friend who cheated.
He makes you uneasy
When it comes to men who cheat, there’s a certain type of unsettling and disconcerting feeling that these men can end up generating in their partners. And while these men may do everything in their power to hide their cheating, their words, actions, and behaviors can instill a sense of uncertainty, uneasiness, and doubt in their partner.
In many cases, women can pick up on the fact that something is off, even without tangible proof or hard evidence. This concept is known as “gut feel,” and it occurs when a person intuitively senses in the pit of his or her stomach that something just isn’t right. Women who are being cheated on can often feel that something sinister is happening, simply because of pure instinct.
He wants his privacy
A classic sign that a man is cheating on you is that he suddenly has a new need for privacy. You may notice that he’s taking his calls in the other room, clearing his browser history on the computer, as well as deleting his texts. This is due to the fact that when men cheat, their ability to maintain their privacy is an important part of keeping up the illusion of their innocence.
In many cases, men who cheat end up creating their own private world, with secret usernames, email addresses, social media accounts, hidden apps, and even separate phone numbers, bank accounts, and vacations.
In fact, a 2012 survey by BullGuard, a mobile and online security software company, revealed that 20% of men have a secret email account that their partner doesn’t know about, and this email account is often used to correspond with an ex, a fling, and/or other secret online acquaintances.
Additionally, 25% of men admit to using unique and complicated passwords for their email and social media accounts in order to prevent their partner from having any access. So if you’ve noticed that your man wants his privacy more than ever before, consider that he might be cheating on you.