Are You The Toxic One?
Are you engaging in constant behaviour that is negatively influencing your relationship?
Have you thought about why you are jumping from one relationship to another? Each ending bitterly and never lasting for any “proper” length of time. Probably you might be the problem.
If you worry that’s the case, it’s time to start reading the signs you are the toxic one in the relationship.
Have you once tried to break into your ex’s phone so many times in a row that you got locked out of it. Needless to say, this wasn’t the first time something like that happened. Do you check your partner’s phone and email and constantly check in on him/her? Excessive snooping creates a toxic atmosphere of mistrust when sometimes there’s nothing warranting the behavior.
If there’s a valid reason motivating the snooping, the relationship probably isn’t the relationship you should be in. Figure out if this is your issue or if it’s an unhealthy relationship. If it’s your issue, start trusting your partner and enjoy your relationship. If it’s an unhealthy relationship, it’s time to exit and find a trustworthy partner.
You regularly threaten your partner.
When you have a disagreement, you threaten bodily harm, give ultimatums, or threaten to leave them. E.g. “If you don’t do this, I will leave you.”
Your partner avoids you.
He/she does not initiate contact with you and is always trying to cut conversations short in order to get away.
You never apologize.
The word “sorry” simply doesn’t exist in your vocabulary. You’re not willing to admit when you’re wrong and are always finding excuses to justify your actions.
You never let go.
Even if your partner is remorseful for something they did, you hold it over their head constantly and years later, you’re still reminding them of their mess up.
You Create Tension
Do you alienate your significant other’s family and avoid spending time with or including them? This creates unnecessary tension and forces your partner to choose between you or his family. This scenario rarely ends favorably.