Can Men And Women Be “Just Friends”?
Many tales have been told of men and women who claim to be ‘just friends’, who regularly meet over coffee or lunch as they catchup. Needless to say, some even lightly touch each others’ hands to make a point but insist there is nothing more to it, it is just friendship.
However, a million-dollar question is, can a man and woman simply be platonic friends? A simple enough question but one that has plagued many people since time immemorial.
In many cases, the answer is no. Sometimes that is a good thing when both people see friendship as a step to mutually satisfying love, sex, and/or commitment.
At other times, men and women cannot be just friends because only one friend desires something more. Those mismatched desires between men and women lead to unequal friend-zone situations, in which one person’s needs are completely satisfied at the other’s expense.
Those unfortunate instances and the frustrations around them are the friendship problems we hear so much about.
A friendship between men and women is not impossible. However, it does require finding someone with friendship goals matching your own. Communicating clearly and leaving when there is not a match is key. Also, if you desire to be “just friends,” it may be better to pick friends who are already in other romantic relationships. That way, you can have a satisfying exchange, a good friend, and no frustration.
However, men, relative to women, have a particularly hard time being “just friends.”